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    Are You Your Own Best Friend or Enemy?

    What you say to yourself in the back of your head is actually vital to your dating success. You probably didn’t think that your internal dialogue mattered that much! Well it does, and here’s why.
    When you are making decisions, thinking about what actions you would like to take, and thinking about dating, it’s very likely that little, self-defeating thoughts pop into your head. These thoughts are the little confidence destroyers that you have to take control over to be successful with women.
    If you let negative thoughts prevent you from saying, doing, and taking action, you are talking yourself out of forward momentum. You will never get anywhere if you don’t try.
    When you are talking to a woman that you like for the first time, you probably are feeling nervous. Your subconscious will often shoot out thoughts that make you think twice about taking a risk.
    When you are already in a vulnerable state, it’s easy to listen to these negative thoughts. They will create unnecessary doubt in your mind, so it’s important to be able to identify them to counteract them. Are you plagued with negative thoughts? Consider these common dating saboteurs:

    General Statements
    “She’ll think I’m an idiot for even approaching her.”
    “She probably always has guys talking to her.”
    “I’ll get laughed at for even trying.”
    “She’ll know she can do better than me.”
    “This woman is out of my league.”
    “She’s too good-looking to be interested in me.”
    “She’ll think I’m not good enough.”
    “I don’t stand a chance.”

    Self-Defeating Questions
    “She can have anyone, why would she pick me?”
    “Why bother? There’s no way she’d be interested in me.”
    “Why do I think I stand a chance now?”
    “Why would a woman as great as she is want to be with a man like me?”
    Easy-Way-Out Statements
    “She’s too beautiful. I should try someone who’s less attractive, like me.”
    “Why should I stick my neck out on the line when I’m only going to get rejected? I’ll just go home and try again a different day.”
    “I’m not prepared enough...I’ll buy a [training program, self-help guide, dating course] and study harder before trying.”

    Tell yourself to stop making excuses to avoid an uncomfortable situation, and step outside of your comfort zone. You’re working against yourself if you are creating constant excuses and roadblocks. The best recommendation is to just do it.
    By having excuses and self-defeating internal dialogue running through your head as you are trying to meet a woman, you are hurting your chances for success. How do you counteract your negative thoughts and improve your self-esteem and confidence? You will need to re-invent your internal thoughts so that they are positive and constructive.

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