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Chapter 3: The Ability To Flirt (1)

It Will Define Your Success
Flirting used to be a term that was used to describe giddy little school boys and girls passing notes in class. Perhaps you were one that would flirt with a girl back then, but now, it just seems too daunting of a task. There is little doubt that you have to do it, though.

A flirt is an experience that accomplishes several key things.

1. It shows the other person that you are interested in them.
2. It gives the other person a very small but powerful look at the type of person that you are.

She will either come to you or she will turn and run. The decisive factor in this aspect is just how well you accomplish flirting. Before you become overwhelmed, though, realize that flirting is a process that you can be successful at when you take in our key steps.

Flirting is a process that can be fun, too. Once you learn how to do it, chances are good that you’ll be good at it and it will work for you as a charm virtually every time.

Learning To Flirt: Steps To Success
Flirting is a process. It takes a bit of learning, which we’ll provide you here. Consider these steps for successful flirting on your part. You’ll also be able to recognize easier when others are flirting with you!

Step 1: Learn About The Girl
Because flirting is an individual situation where two very different people must find some parallel to get to know each other, the first step must be to learn all that you can about the girl that you are planning to flirt with.

This means learning different aspects of what makes her happy and what will impress here.

For example, if you are interested in talking to a girl that is very traditional and loves romance, flirting with her may mean flowers or even a sweet poem that you write just for her.

One the other hand, if she’s more of a modernized woman, she may not find this type of treatment entertaining at all. She may find flowers boring. Instead, she may like it if you buy her a drink or even invite her for coffee before work one day.

The only way for you to know what will work for the girl is to learn as much about her as you can. The facts are simple: the more you know, the easier it will be to tailor the type of flirting you do so it will work in your favor.

What facts can you gather about her? What does she enjoy doing? What do you know about her from friends? Do you know about the types of activities she enjoys? If not, you can often gauge a lot about a person through their clothing and the way that they talk and act.

Gather as much information about her as possible.

Step 2: Take It Easy
It’s easy to gather information and stay back from the scene, but remember that you do need to approach her at some point to get to know her. Once you feel like you have gathered the amount of information that you need, you can then develop a method of flirting with her.

Slow and steady is important. Start by just making sure she knows who you are and where you are. You want to make sure that she knows that you are alive. You can do this simply, just by making your presence known in the situation that you are in.

Your goal is to go from the guy she may have seen someplace before to the guy that she has seen around several times.

If you move too quickly here and simply jump at her with all the lines you’ve prepared, you’ll scare her or make her nervous. Instead, you want to come off as a natural part of her life, someone that would blend right in with the way that she’s living her life now.

The best way to get to know her at this point, then, is as simple as saying, “hi.” That’s it, just “hi.” This will let her know that you are there, but that you are just an average guy that’s being polite. Even more so, it may spark her interest in you, too.

A short and sweet conversation is the idea at first. Later, you’ll do more to meet her. Each time that you see her (which you should make a point to seeing her) do the same thing. After doing this several times, you can easily benefit from the current situation.

Now, she even expects you to say hi to her.

Now, she’s waiting for a few seconds that she’ll be able to talk to you.

And, she may even be hoping that you’ll say something more. You remain calm and collected, as if you have many other things going on in your life. Eventually, you’ll start a small conversation with her.

At this point, she’s more relaxed and so are you. You’ll even feel less worried or scared about it.

Step 3: Flirt With Her
Now, it’s time to flirt with her to let her know that you are interested in her.

As you are talking to her, you want to flirt with her in a unique way, perhaps in the way that you have determined is the way that she’ll appreciate it. Flirting with a girl is a great way for her to actually know that you like her or are just interested in learning more about her.

Every woman, and man for that matter, wants to feel important and valued and this is the ideal time to make sure that she knows that.

When flirting with a girl, make sure that she knows that you value her. Give her the feeling that you value her, without actually saying those words. You’ll have to be a bit creative here, especially at first, but soon you’ll learn exactly how easy it can be to enjoy flirting with her or any other girl you want to get to know.

Techniques To Use

Here are some flirting techniques that aren’t too cheesy but that really do work in a number of different situations. Choose those that you know will impress and ignite her curiosity about you.

· Use a bit of humor to get things started, but don’t be rude or otherwise negative in that humor. For example, don’t say, “Did you see that guy with the overalls and the full beer belly?” Instead, say something humorous but positive. Joking about your own behavior is a great way to start. “I thought for sure I was going to make a fool out of myself.” Make her smile, and make her laugh!

· Be sweet. You’ve heard the saying that sugar is a better lure? It works here too. Be sweet to her. Use compliments about the way that she looks; hold open doors, been sweet in the words that you say to her. You can over do this to the point that she will become annoyed with you. That’s not what you want! Small, simple gestures make all of the difference.

· Be her friend, but only a bit. The last thing that you want to do is to ask her for coffee only to spend the next three hours listening to her talk about her boyfriend or her ex. That’s not what you want. Nevertheless, you should be a distant friend, just not her confidant. Of course, being a friend does mean being open to her. If you let the situation progress to where she sees you as a friend instead of as a boyfriend, chances are good that you’ll never pull out of that situation.

· You won’t look like a dork! Many guys refrain from doing what feels natural, such as holding her hand or opening a car door for her for fear that they will look like a dork to her. That’s not anywhere near the case as she’ll be impressed that you thought of her. Don’t feel like you are a dork if you want to make her laugh or you feel the need to say something stupid.

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