Getting the Woman of Your Dreams / First Things First - Part 1

First Things First - Part 1

Getting Yourself in Order
Before you can begin dating anyone you need to do a little a background work first to make sure you understand yourself. This will help you ensure that you are looking for a woman who’s compatible with you, and that you have the right expectations. Only once you understand these factors will you be able to find the woman who is right for you.
The first step before you begin dating should be to understand how you operate. Why do you want to date at this point in your life? Before you begin dating, make sure you are in this for the right reasons. Reconsider the reasons you want to date if:
You want someone to dote on you, like your mother did. Get a pet or a maid.
You want to impress your friends with a “trophy girl”. Buy a fast car – your friends will be impressed.
You want one-night-stands. If you are looking for a purely physical relationship, this book might not be for you. Picking up a woman for a one-night-stand isn’t very complex. Finding someone who is a perfect match for you is.
You want to date because everyone else is.

Next, you will need to learn more about yourself. Consider these questions to gain valuable insight into dating motives and desired outcomes:
1.What character traits are most important to you?
Perhaps you despise lying, and are a hard-worker. These are fundamental traits that are a part of the foundation of your character, and will most likely be important to you throughout your life. You’ll most likely be looking for a woman with similar traits.
2.Why do you want to date at this point in your life?
This book will focus on dating for the purposes of friendship and compatibility essential for longer term relationships, if so desired. You will be provided with the tools needed to help you find a companion to spend time with, with whom you can share the good times and bad, and go through life with a friend who loves you.
3.What are you expecting to get out of your dating experience?
This book will teach you how to find a woman, and date a woman, who will stimulate you mentally, emotionally, and physically.
4.What do you want and expect from a woman?
Understand that in any friendship or relationship, both parties want and expect something. When dating someone, she will have expectations just like you will. The key to success and compatibility is to find someone that closely matches your own needs and wants.
The answers to these basic questions will be able to help you get on track. Once you know what you want, you have a better chance of finding it.

Your Perfect Woman
Have you been going about dating all wrong? Perfect women only exist in magazines and movies. Real women live in the real world. If you find yourself constantly discouraged by less-than-perfect women, you need to look again at what you want in a woman and focus on the major factors that are most important to you. What are you non-negotiable traits, and what really won’t matter to you if she’s perfect in every other way?
None of us are perfect. Each of us has faults. Magazines are airbrushed, and the movies are edited to show what is wanted. Live in reality and you will be much happier. Your inability to find the “Perfect Woman” isn’t bad luck, it just doesn’t exist.

Romance for Non-Romantic
If romance doesn’t come to you naturally, don’t worry, you can learn it. You might not think that being called a “romantic man” is a good thing. Maybe your buddies wouldn’t think so, but the way to a woman’s heart is by being romantic. If you like taking care of your woman, it doesn’t make you any less masculine than any other guy.
What exactly do you have to do to be considered romantic? The underlying theme behind being romantic is to put her desires ahead of your own.
That’s it. It’s actually so easy that it’s strange that more men don’t get it. Just think about little actions you can do are unexpected. They don’t need to cost much money, but the little extra thought that you’ve put into making her happy will melt her heart.
Here are some romantic ideas to help get you started. Women will pick up on the little things that you do. You’ll be able to get the idea of what it means to be romantic. Try this:
Give her a side glance, a touch, or a brush of your arm across her back.
Hold open the door for her to walk through.
Open her car door to let her in.
Go for walks on the beach.
Have dinner at a fine dining restaurant.
Try anything she really enjoys doing, and if you don’t like to do it, it’s even more romantic!
Bring her a bunch of flowers. This one’s a good standby, if not a little cliché, but you’ll need more than just this to be considered romantic!
Timing is everything in romance. If you chose to do something with her, when she knows there’s a game on, or something else that you would typically do, she’ll feel special that you picked her.
You’ll need to be mentally involved in whatever activity you chose to do, even if it’s something you aren’t that interested in, when being romantic. Staring off into space or acting like you’d rather be somewhere else will have a reverse impact on her.
Being romantic is about the impromptu, unexpected moments. Being romantic is easy and once you get the hang of it, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t try to show your lady your romantic side on a regular basis.

How do you Look to Her?
Your appearance is important. This doesn’t mean that you need to be a male model, but it does mean that you need to take care of yourself, and put a little effort into how you look before you leave the house.
A big turnoff to women is men that don’t care about how they look. Are your close dirty, worn, and altogether sloppy? If you are going out on a date with a woman, you’ll need to pull yourself together a bit. There’s nothing wrong with wearing jeans and a T-shirt with the guys, but a woman will want to see you try a little harder. You can be sure that she is looking (again and again) in the mirror before she meets your for your date. Why shouldn’t you do the same?
There’s nothing wrong with the casual jeans and T-shirt if they are clean, unstained, and fit well. If you’re picking them up off the bedroom floor from the night before, they probably don’t look okay. Also be sure that what you are wearing is appropriate for where you are going. If you are going out for a nice dinner, find out if there is a dress code.
This might sound basic, but don’t leave the house without first doing these thing.
1.Take a shower daily.
2.Shave.
3.Comb your hair.
4.Brush your teeth for white teeth and fresh breath.
5.Put on clothes that are clean, well-fitting, and pressed.
If you already have a date this is essential. And if you don’t and are just going out to run errands, it’s even more important. You never know when you might meet someone. And don’t you want a woman’s first impression of you to be at your best?
We’ve covered dressing well, next is how you present yourself. Your posture says a lot about how you feel and think about yourself. When you slouch, it looks like you are not very self-confident.
An example of self-confidence in female attraction is how women are attracted to men in uniforms. This isn’t because of the actual uniform; rather it’s the posture and perceived confidence that attracts women. Their confidence makes them look like they think they are winners, and by portraying that image, women believe they are winners too.
Your hair style is important to your overall look. Pick a style that makes you look successful and confident. Avoid trendy styles and cuts that will take a long time to primp. Stick with a classic, clean look. Spend the extra money to go to a men’s hairstylist for advice on a classic style that will look good with your face shape and body type. Ask for something that is easy to maintain, and then be sure to maintain it.
Basic personal hygiene is something that you might think goes without saying, but it is so important that it’s worth spelling it out. Being clean and well-groomed is essential to your success with women. Women notice the small stuff. Do these things when getting your self in order:
Trim and clean your fingernails.
Thoroughly wash and scrub your hands to remove grease and grime and soften them.
Go to the dentist regularly for cleanings, and look into having your teeth whitened professionally, or use over-the-counter whitening strips.
Clear up your complexion using over-the-counter products, or see a professional dermatologist for a prescription. No one needs to have acne thanks to today’s modern science.
Get rid of pasty dull skin. Spend a little time outside to get some color, or if you can’t, spend a few minutes at a tanning salon. Lots of men do it, and you’ll look healthier and sexier.
When preparing to go out:
DO:
Wear clean and well-maintained shoes that are appropriate for your outfit and the occasion. For example, expensive sneakers with a suit won’t impress her.
Drink in moderation if you decide to imbibe. Nothing is a bigger red flag to a woman than someone who loses control. It’s not only dangerous but it might also be a sign of an in ability to handle stress.
DON’T:
Wear more than a dab of cologne or aftershave. Overpowering scents are not attractive, and she shouldn’t be able to smell you before she can see you.
Wear inappropriate jewelry, or more than just a piece or two of jewelry.
Smoke tobacco, chew or dip tobacco. It’s a dirty habit that is not attractive.
Use drugs. The good women will walk the other way when they realize you use drugs.

Also In This Category:

Getting the Woman of Your Dreams
- The Secrets to Your Dating Success - Part 2
- Introduction - How To Get a Women
- The First Date - Part 1
- Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 1
- Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 2
- Attracting Women - Getting Started
- The First Date - Part 2
- Chapter 1: Men Don’t Get Women
- Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 4
- Body Language:How to Tell If She’s Interested
- Conclusion
- Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 3
- First Things First - Part 2
- Look at Yourself – Know Your Attributes
- Women 101

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