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Positive Reconstruction of Negative Self-Talk

How do you re-think what you are telling yourself? The following is a closer look at common statements, and what they really mean.
1.“She’s too attractive for me. She’s out of my league.”
It is up to her to decide if someone is a suitable mate. Don’t assume anything! Everyone has seen a stunning woman on the arm of an average man. That guy didn’t let his internal thoughts get in the way.
If you are saying this to yourself, you have a poor self image about the way you look. If you listen to this type of talk, you will start to act unattractive. The woman you are trying to get a date with will sense that you think lowly of yourself. Try replacing this thought with a new, more positive view:
“She’s really good-looking. Almost as attractive as I am!”
Maybe this seems a little cocky, but it will help you feel the confidence you need to portray that you are a prize. Of course, you shouldn’t say it out loud, just tell it to yourself. This will help you put yourself on her level.
The confidence is attractive to some woman, and at the very least the confidence you exude will make her want you more. Be careful not to overdo it though, obnoxiously cocky behavior is a turn-off.
2.“I’m not good enough to date her.”
She should decide if you are good enough or not. Also, don’t forget the possibility that she may not be your type once you start talking with her.
When you say something like this to yourself, you are saying that the woman is a better person than you are. When you tell yourself this, you start to believe it and act that way. She’ll pick up on it, and you certainly won’t have a chance to date her. Who wants to be with someone that thinks they aren’t good enough? Think about changing the statement to:
“She has a lot of positive things going for her, but I think I can bring a lot to the table, too.”
Of course this is a little cocky too, but you are positively noting her traits, and balancing it with your own. Women like to be with someone who is confident. Nobody is perfect, we all know that. By thinking you are in her league, your body language will exude the confidence you need to really be there.
3.“I’ll get laughed at for even trying.”
When you tell yourself this, you are saying that you are a loser, and you are assuming that the woman you are trying to talk to thinks so too. You are sending off the message through your body language and what you say.
When you have self-confidence, it will change the way others think about you, both men and women. You’ll probably be surprised to find that when you are confident in yourself, others don’t doubt you as easily. And so what if other guys poke a little fun? It’s common for guy friends to find a little vulnerability and exploit it. Just let it roll off your shoulders. Reword this thought as:
“These guys will be really envious when I go out with this attractive woman.”
4.“What would a woman like that want with a guy like me?”
If you don’t think you are fun, interesting, and worth spending time with, then why should she? Every relationship impacts lives. When you date a woman, you will give her companionship, and give her someone that she enjoys spending time with. Tell yourself this instead:
“She seems like fun. I’m sure she’ll enjoy what I have to offer her.”
This different spin on your negative thought will improve you confidence because you are acknowledging your finer qualities as well as hers. Ultimately, you are hoping for a complementing personality to your own. Unless you talk to her, you will never know!
5.“She’ll know she can do better than me.”
When thinking like this, how can you succeed? This statement simply doesn’t make sense because there is no one else in the world like you. Each person is unique and has their own qualities. What exactly does “better” mean, anyway? Isn’t “better” and “worse” in the eye of the beholder? Change this thought to:
“She’ll realize she won’t find anyone else like me out there!”
You’re unique personality and style is interesting, and she will be drawn to it.
When looking at yourself, and listening to your internal thoughts, consider lightening up a little bit. Men are often very hard on themselves. It’s important to understand that thinking this way is self-defeating, and a sure way to line yourself up for failure, simply because you talk yourself out of being successful. If you think self-confidence, you will act self-confident, which is attractive to women. Confidence will make you feel more comfortable about approaching a woman, and will benefit your dating life significantly. In the next chapter we will cover building your self-confidence and how to use it to your advantage.

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