Getting the Woman of Your Dreams / Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 4

Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 4

Step III: Take Action
While this step could be its own book, we’ll cover the very basics of this important step. Just like in sales, you’ll need to have a plan of action when you are done talking. If you are interested in seeing her again, in more of a formal date situation, you’ll need to ask her out.
If you feel like you got enough information from your conversation, make a decision on whether or not to ask her out. If you are unsure, don’t ask her out now, rather wait and think about it. If you know you want to see her again, just ask when you are about to end the conversation. Try something as simple as “It’s been great talking with you. Are you interested in getting a cup of coffee with me?” At this point she’ll either say she’s not available, not interested, or yes. You will never know if you don’t try!
If she says no, don’t sweat it. Wish her well, and don’t waste too much time on it. There are plenty of other women out there. Most likely her reason for saying no had nothing to do with you at all, but perhaps it was her own situation. Maybe she is seeing someone else, or she’s not looking for a relationship right now.
If she says yes, smile and find a time that works well for you both. Offer to pick her up or meet her there. Keep it light and easy, ask for her phone number and give her yours. Congratulations!

Suggested Tips for Making this Easier
Breathe. If you experience panic attacks and extreme nervousness when trying to talk with women, practice deep breathing techniques for stress reduction. Proper breathing increases the oxygen levels in your blood and makes you feel calmer and more relaxed naturally. Are you breathing correctly? If you are, your stomach should rise and fall with each breath. Take longer, slower breaths when you inhale and exhale.
Keep good posture. Keep your spine straight when sitting or standing. This will help you breath correctly, as well as look more confident and attractive.
Exercise regularly. By working out regularly, you not only feel better about yourself, you will look better and reduce your anxiety and depression. You will have better, more restful sleep, higher levels of energy, stronger muscles, and better circulation. The four main categories of exercise are:
Cardiovascular Exercise: Used to build up endurance, this is the most effective in burning fat and helps you psychologically. You don’t have to spend a lot of time doing this type of exercise to reap its benefits. Just 15 minutes a day will help. Common cardiovascular exercises include walking, jogging, and taking the stairs.
Muscular Exercise: Strength training builds your muscles by using weighted resistance such as handheld weights or gym machines. This exercise, coupled with a cardiovascular workout will give you a comprehensive body makeover when done over time.
Stretching Exercise: By practicing stretching exercises, like yoga and tai chi, you will become more limber and flexible.
Balancing: These types of exercises are beneficial to you if you don’t know how to dance or are generally uncoordinated and awkward.
Set up your own diversion tactics. Use the technique to distract yourself from your nervousness and anxiety in any situation. Think about whatever you want to in order to change the subject in your mind. If negative thoughts come in, try these things:
Count to twenty or say the alphabet in your head
Chew gum or suck on a mint
Hold something like a swizzle stick or napkin
Do a complicated math equation in your head
Think about your work to-do list
Try to remember what you had for dinner – 4 days ago!

Appendix I: Positive Attribute Assessment Worksheet

Directions:
Use this worksheet to keep track of your personal traits and qualities. Answer the following questions with one word or short phrase answers. List them in the column to the right.
My best traits are …

My friends think I’m…

The top five things that I wish people knew about my personality are:

I find the following to be characteristics of someone I admire:

Look down the right hand column. It’s an impressive list, isn’t it? Is this list of personal traits and characteristics those that you consider the most important? If so, focus on these things when developing your positive statements and personal affirmations.
Appendix II: Changing Negative Self-Talk into Encouragement Worksheet
Directions: In conjunction with your list of positive characteristics, use this worksheet to work through the spinning of your negative self-talk, by turning it into positive coaching. On the left column, write what you tell yourself that’s negative, and in the right column re-write the comment in a completely positive light.
Change your negative internal voice into a positive coach that will help you take chances and try for what your really want in every aspect of your life. When you are trying for something that is out of your comfort zone, do you hear negative things that make you want to turn around and go home? Turn them around by writing out the positive counterpart.
Negative Internal Comment
Re-worked Positive Version
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2.

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4.

Appendix III: Creating Personalized Positive Affirmations Worksheet
Directions: In conjunction with your positive traits list, use this worksheet to create your own personalized positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations are different than the positive encouragement you tell yourself right before doing what makes you uncomfortable. With positive affirmations, you are changing your fundamental beliefs about yourself and your own reality. These statements are repeated hundreds of times per day until you believe them and assume the trait.
Use your positive attribute list when writing your positive affirmations. After you’ve defined your insecurities, create statements that will help combat your insecurities, and build up your self confidence.
Personal Insecurities
I feel I’m lacking in the following areas:

I am most insecure about:

I’m worried that people will think that I’m:

I don’t take actions because I’m afraid that:

Re-working Your Personal Affirmations

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- Chapter 2: A Lack Of Confidence Got You Down? (1)
- Body Language:How to Tell If She’s Interested
- The Secrets to Your Dating Success - Part 2
- Positive Reconstruction of Negative Self-Talk
- Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 3
- Women 101
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- Attracting Women - Getting Started
- Tips for Success When Meeting Women - part 2
- First Things First - Part 1
- Chapter 1: Men Don’t Get Women
- The First Date - Part 2
- Chapter 3: The Ability To Flirt (2)
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